The Modern Guide to Sex

Explore over two hours of free video episodes and bonus chapters tackling common questions about sex.

Meet Your Coach

Georgia Grace is a certified sex & relationship practitioner, somatic therapist and author. She is also a co-founder of Normal, where she works with a team of experts to create educational courses and design modern sex toys.

She is on a mission to redefine what ‘normal’ means when it comes to sex, relationships and intimacy, and equip people with the tools they need to address these typically taboo topics.

Georgia is known for her work in the areas of inclusive, sex-positive and shame-free education and helps individuals, couples and groups overcome issues relating to sexual confidence, communication, consent and desire.

Georgia is a regular contributor to a variety of top-tier media outlets, podcast host, has presented on a range of sexual wellness topics nationally and her bestselling book, The Modern Guide to Sex, is published by Harper Collins.

You can also find Georgia delivering bite-sized education for over 80,000 followers at @gspot._ on Instagram.

Introduction

Welcome

Georgia shares her journey to becoming a certified sex coach and how she supports her clients in clinic.

What is sexual wellness, and why does it matter?
What is sexual wellness, and why does it matter?
‘Wellness’ has become a big deal within the last decade or so. There’s physical wellness, which promotes using nutrition and movement to keep our bodies healthy; there’s mental wellness, which...
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The wonderful world of sexology
The wonderful world of sexology
Sexology in the 1800s Johann Bachofen’s version of human history read a little different to most. In 1861, he published his theory of cultural evolution in Das Mutterrecht, or ‘Mother Right’....
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EP 01. Finding Your Pleasure

Mapping your (unique) body

Georgia covers the pleasure anatomy you missed in school, from the g-spot (which isn't actually a spot) to the clitoris, the prostate and the a-spot. Then, she explains how to start exploring and mapping your body's pleasure zones - and why you should spend time looking at your genitals.

There's No Normal Down There (an Anatomy Lesson)
There's No Normal Down There (an Anatomy Lesson)
Why there’s no such thing as ‘normal’ down there Most of us probably studied anatomy in high school—or at the very least, we remember that the foot bone is connected...
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How to find all of your erogenous zones
How to find all of your erogenous zones
An erogenous zone is any area on your body that makes you feel excited when it’s touched. The genitals are an obvious erogenous zone, as are nipples and the butt....
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We Debunked 10 Of The Wildest Myths About Masturbation
We Debunked 10 Of The Wildest Myths About Masturbation
Masturbating is something that many of us do, but few of us talk about. One Australian study found that over 70% of men and 40% of women had masturbated in the...
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EP 02: Foreplay And Arousal

Getting turned on

We're all thinking about foreplay wrong - and the science of arousal is a lot more complicated than we realise. Georgia takes you through how arousal is created, how to incorporate ‘outercourse’ into sex, and what to do if you're not feeling aroused in the way that you want to be.

NORMAL's Guide to Foreplay
NORMAL's Guide to Foreplay
Foreplay is like eating kale: we know we should probably be doing it, but sometimes it’s hard to get started. It can also be confusing to figure out exactly what...
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Here's how outercourse can shake up your sex life
Here's how outercourse can shake up your sex life
Penetrative sex can be great. But if we’re looking for an orgasm, it doesn’t always deliver. Our Big Sex Survey revealed that less than half of all people with vulvas orgasm during...
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Guide To Setting The Mood
Guide To Setting The Mood
Sometimes organising a romantic night is harder than it seems. We want to treat our partner to a special, sensual night in, but what exactly do we do? Is it...
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How to discover what actually turns you on
How to discover what actually turns you on
Think for a moment: what really turns you on? Perhaps you’re drawing a blank or struggling to think of some examples—and that’s okay! It’s not just you. Many of us...
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Everything you need to know about mismatched libidos
Everything you need to know about mismatched libidos
Even the most dedicated, loving, committed couples can experience mismatched libido. Mismatched libido occurs when one partner is more desiring of sex and intimacy than the other: essentially, when your...
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EP 03: Having Better Orgasms

All about orgasms

For some, orgasms are simple, while for others, they can be elusive - but there's a lot more to the topic than you might think. Georgia discusses what happens to the body during orgasm, how to experience the many different types of orgasm, how multiple orgasms work, faking orgasms and how an orgasm-centric mentality might actually make pleasure harder.

Here's All The Ways Your Body Can Have An Orgasm
Here's All The Ways Your Body Can Have An Orgasm
For as much time as we spend talking and thinking about orgasms, they’re still a pretty mysterious topic. After all, there are no precise instructions for how to have one...
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EP 04: Having Great Vaginal

Exploring vaginal sex

We see a lot of (misleading) P-in-V sex in porn and pop culture, but there's so much more to great penetrative sex (and it doesn't just involve penises)! George explores just how to target the g-spot (hint: it's not a spot), squirting, the A-spot, and discusses pleasure-enhancing positions and techniques for partnered sex. This chapter will help you take it to the next level.

How to find your g-spot (and what to expect once you've found it)
How to find your g-spot (and what to expect once...
 For everything that we hear about the g-spot, we’d be forgiven for imagining that it’s an instant pleasure button that provides a shortcut to amazing sex. Blogs, films, and magazines...
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So, what’s the deal with squirting?
So, what’s the deal with squirting?
Squirting is the release of fluid from the vulva around the moment of orgasm, and it’s the stuff of sexual legend. The internet is full of eager, curious questions about...
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All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for you
All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for...
Here at NORMAL, we worship at the altar of lubricants. Lube, short for "lubricant", is the unsung hero of good sex, the often-forgotten super tool needed in any sex-positive person's...
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EP 05: Anal Sex

Exploring anal sex

Georgia explains why anal sex is about so much more than what we see in porn (like hard and fast penetration) and discusses hygiene and pre-sex preparation - as well as how to use toys for training and pleasure, external anal techniques, and penetrative anal techniques.

Everything you ever wanted to know about anal sex
Everything you ever wanted to know about anal sex
Anal sex: we talk about it, we read about it, we see it in porn—but what’s it actually like? Different people enjoy different things about anal sex. Some find it...
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The 10 most common myths about anal sex, debunked
The 10 most common myths about anal sex, debunked
There are heaps of myths out there about anal sex. A couple of them are based in truth, but many of them are totally false and might actually be preventing...
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All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for you
All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for...
Here at NORMAL, we worship at the altar of lubricants. Lube, short for "lubricant", is the unsung hero of good sex, the often-forgotten super tool needed in any sex-positive person's...
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The Epic NORMAL Guide to All of the Sex Toys
The Epic NORMAL Guide to All of the Sex Toys
If your last experience with vibrators was getting a bullet vibe in your cousin’s hens’ night goodie bag, or walking in to an adult store and immediately walking out after...
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EP 06: Oral Sex

Exploring oral sex

Georgia explains how to feel confident around topics like hair and hygiene, as well as building arousal using the whole body, techniques to try for people with vulvas, techniques for people with penises, and how to incorporate toys for even better oral experiences.

Everything you need to know about giving and receiving oral sex
Everything you need to know about giving and receiving oral...
Oral sex is when you use your mouth to stimulate your partner’s genitals. This could mean kissing, licking, sucking, or nibbling on their butt, vulva, or penis—or any combination thereof....
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Here’s exactly what your genitals are meant to smell like
Here’s exactly what your genitals are meant to smell like
The thought of a lover getting up close and personal with your genitals can be as intimidating as it is exciting. It’s exciting because it means you’re about to get...
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EP 07: V-on-V sex

Exploring V-on-V sex

Georgia busts some myths about V-on-V sex (hint: it's not all about scissoring), recommends techniques to try, and explores how to incorporate role tools like sex toys and strap-ons.

The NORMAL Guide to V-on-V Sex
The NORMAL Guide to V-on-V Sex
Introduction Owning a vagina is an exercise in frustration - from maintaining it to other people’s opinions on how you should use it, who you should use it with and...
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The Epic NORMAL Guide to All of the Sex Toys
The Epic NORMAL Guide to All of the Sex Toys
If your last experience with vibrators was getting a bullet vibe in your cousin’s hens’ night goodie bag, or walking in to an adult store and immediately walking out after...
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All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for you
All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for...
Here at NORMAL, we worship at the altar of lubricants. Lube, short for "lubricant", is the unsung hero of good sex, the often-forgotten super tool needed in any sex-positive person's...
Read More

EP 08: P-on-P sex

Exploring P-on-P sex

Georgia addresses misconceptions about P-on-P sex, and explains some of the best tools and toys you can bring into play. She explores pleasurable positions and techniques to try, and tackles the topic of performance anxiety.

The NORMAL Guide to P-on-P Sex
The NORMAL Guide to P-on-P Sex
Introduction We can all agree that (unless you’re somewhere on the asexual spectrum), sex can be a lot of fun. But it’s also true that sometimes we all wish we...
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The Epic NORMAL Guide to All of the Sex Toys
The Epic NORMAL Guide to All of the Sex Toys
If your last experience with vibrators was getting a bullet vibe in your cousin’s hens’ night goodie bag, or walking in to an adult store and immediately walking out after...
Read More
All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for you
All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for...
Here at NORMAL, we worship at the altar of lubricants. Lube, short for "lubricant", is the unsung hero of good sex, the often-forgotten super tool needed in any sex-positive person's...
Read More

EP 09: Masturbation & Solo Pleasure

Solo sex & pleasure

Whether you're a beginner or an experienced hand, there's something for everyone here. Georgia explains how to level up your masturbation, how to incorporate aids like sex toys, how to explore mutual masturbation, and how masturbation can be used to train for more pleasure or longevity in partnered sex.

We Debunked 10 Of The Wildest Myths About Masturbation
We Debunked 10 Of The Wildest Myths About Masturbation
Masturbating is something that many of us do, but few of us talk about. One Australian study found that over 70% of men and 40% of women had masturbated in the...
Read More
The Epic NORMAL Guide to All of the Sex Toys
The Epic NORMAL Guide to All of the Sex Toys
If your last experience with vibrators was getting a bullet vibe in your cousin’s hens’ night goodie bag, or walking in to an adult store and immediately walking out after...
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How to actually use a vibrator
How to actually use a vibrator
We all need a little help sometimes.  If you’re not someone who regularly uses a vibrator, or even someone who regularly masturbates, you might feel like you’re missing out. Television, magazines, and...
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Premature ejaculation: it’s more common than you think
Premature ejaculation: it’s more common than you think
Premature ejaculation—otherwise known as ‘coming too soon’—is common. It’s so common, in fact, that one in three men1 will experience it during their lifetimes. But let’s be honest: this common...
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Having good conversations

Creating space for people to express boundaries and feel safe is a critical foundation for good sex. In this chapter, Georgia looks into what consent means, how to build your sexual communication skills and talk about consent with a partner, and how we can all become better partners.

How to ask for consent without killing the mood
How to ask for consent without killing the mood
We want to be clear that if you deliberately violate someone’s boundaries or ignore their consent, it can be considered sexual violence, sexual assault, or rape. It’s never, ever okay...
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Rejection sucks, but here's how to deal with it
Rejection sucks, but here's how to deal with it
There’s no two ways about it: rejection sucks. It can sting to get turned down for a date. It can dent your ego when your partner’s not in the mood....
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EP 11: Better Relationships

Having better relationships

In this chapter, Georgia touches on some of the most common issues she works with couples on: how to bring up trying new things, how desire actually works, and how to work on desire discrepancy to create fulfilling long-term partnerships.

Here’s how to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies
Here’s how to talk to your partner about your sexual...
Celebrities. Threesomes. Or how about spanking? Plenty of people have sexual fantasies. In fact, 97% of us do—that’s according to researcher and author Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller, who conducted one...
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How to discover what actually turns you on
How to discover what actually turns you on
Think for a moment: what really turns you on? Perhaps you’re drawing a blank or struggling to think of some examples—and that’s okay! It’s not just you. Many of us...
Read More
Everything you need to know about mismatched libidos
Everything you need to know about mismatched libidos
Even the most dedicated, loving, committed couples can experience mismatched libido. Mismatched libido occurs when one partner is more desiring of sex and intimacy than the other: essentially, when your...
Read More
Here’s How To Buy Sex Toys For Your Partner
Here’s How To Buy Sex Toys For Your Partner
Buying a sex toy for your partner can feel like a bit of a risky move. You want them to like it, of course, and you hope that they’ll use...
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A Beginner's Guide to BDSM
A Beginner's Guide to BDSM
If you’re keen to explore BDSM but don’t know where to start—or if you’re just curious to know exactly what people do with those feathered ticklers you see in adult stores—read on!...
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EP 12: Get Confident

Get confident

Georgia discusses the common blockers affecting sexual confidence, and explores techniques for rewiring unhelpful beliefs, communicating your needs and exploring what turns you on (and off).

How to discover what actually turns you on
How to discover what actually turns you on
Think for a moment: what really turns you on? Perhaps you’re drawing a blank or struggling to think of some examples—and that’s okay! It’s not just you. Many of us...
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EP 13: Mental Health

Managing your mental health

Stress, mental health and sex are intimately connected. In this chapter, Georgia explores the relationship between your mental health and sexuality, as well as how to seek support in a way that works for you.

What To Do When Your Mental Health Is Affecting Your Sex Life
What To Do When Your Mental Health Is Affecting Your...
Here’s what you can do if you feel your mental health is affecting your sex life The last twelve months have been...well, pretty stressful. Between financial insecurity, big changes to...
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Loneliness hurts, but you can overcome it
Loneliness hurts, but you can overcome it
Loneliness is nothing new. Even before the pandemic, we all probably had times of feeling isolated from others. We might’ve struggled to find ways to meet our needs for communication,...
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EP 14: Porn & Pop Culture

Exploring our influences

Attitudes and ideas from porn and pop culture can shape how we feel about ourselves and what we expect in sex a.k.a. our ‘sexual scripts’. Learn about how to unpack these messages, find inspiration in erotica, and engage in a healthy way with your cultural influences.

How to discover what actually turns you on
How to discover what actually turns you on
Think for a moment: what really turns you on? Perhaps you’re drawing a blank or struggling to think of some examples—and that’s okay! It’s not just you. Many of us...
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Everything you need to know about finding ethical, sexy porn
Everything you need to know about finding ethical, sexy porn
If you watch porn, you’re not the only one. According to an article published in The Journal of Sex Research, 84% of Australian men and 54% of Australian women surveyed had looked at...
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EP 15: Struggling to Feel Present

How to stay in the moment

Feeling distracted, anxious or unable to relax is really common. Georgia shares some powerful techniques, and leads a guided meditation to end the course.

Bonus: Managing pain during sex

Pain during sex can be confusing and distressing - and all too often, we don’t know where or how to seek help. Learn about the common causes, and how to find the right support to get back to normal.

A primer on pain during sex
A primer on pain during sex
Sex can be full of so many feelings: pleasure, intimacy, raunchiness, and even surprise. But there’s one feeling we don’t often talk about with regards to sex, and that’s pain....
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All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for you
All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for...
Here at NORMAL, we worship at the altar of lubricants. Lube, short for "lubricant", is the unsung hero of good sex, the often-forgotten super tool needed in any sex-positive person's...
Read More

Bonus: Caring for your health

Being safe and healthy is the foundation of exploring sexuality in a pleasurable way. Learn about the different types of health practitioners and how they can assist you, common conditions, practising good hygiene, preventing and managing STIs, and choosing the right contraception for you.

How to access the sexual healthcare you need
How to access the sexual healthcare you need
Let’s be real: the quality of healthcare in Australia is excellent. But accessing it can be really tough. There are heaps of reasons why people might find it difficult to...
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Great Big Guide to Contraception
Great Big Guide to Contraception
When it comes to contraception, there are many more options available than just the condom and the pill. We’ve spoken a bit about safer sex here before, and discussed why you should...
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Guide to Safer Sex & Hygiene
Guide to Safer Sex & Hygiene
For many of us, attempting to put a condom on a banana in high school was a formative part of our teenage years. It came with a warning from teachers...
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NORMAL's Shame-Free Guide To STIs
NORMAL's Shame-Free Guide To STIs
STIs—or sexually transmitted infections—are infections that are spread through sexual activity. This includes sharing bodily fluids (kissing, oral sex, rimming, sharing sex toys, unprotected/condomless sex) and skin-to-skin contact (scissoring, penetrative sex,...
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The best ways to keep your vibrators squeaky clean
The best ways to keep your vibrators squeaky clean
Much like cleaning our houses, cleaning sex toys definitely isn’t the high point of our week. But it’s a massively important part of owning a vibrator—we can't overstate how important...
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All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for you
All about lube: How to choose the right lubricant for...
Here at NORMAL, we worship at the altar of lubricants. Lube, short for "lubricant", is the unsung hero of good sex, the often-forgotten super tool needed in any sex-positive person's...
Read More
Vulvodynia, vaginismus, and the reality of having a ‘depressed vagina’
Vulvodynia, vaginismus, and the reality of having a ‘depressed vagina’
Here’s What It Means To Have Vulvodynia Or Vaginismus Anyone who grew up watching Sex and the City will recall the episode in which Charlotte was diagnosed with a depressed vagina. Itching,...
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