In a world that mostly associates dating with youth, the concept of finding love in your 60s may seem unconventional to some. However, as we embrace longer, healthier lives, the desire for companionship and love remains a timeless aspect of the human experience.
Dating in your 60s can be an exciting and rewarding journey, offering a chance to rediscover romance and create meaningful connections - but it doesn't come without its unique challenges, like not knowing where or how to meet people, learning to navigate online dating and apps, recovering from loss, grief or trauma from previous relationships.
It can feel daunting getting back into dating - but it is totally possible to meet new people! Here's a few top tips from NORMAL's in-house sex coach Georgia Grace on how to actually date in your 60’s.
Take Time to Learn What You Want & Need:
Before diving into the dating scene, take a moment to reflect on your desires and needs. Embrace this time for self-discovery and introspection. Consider your values, interests, and the qualities you seek in a partner. This self-awareness will help you navigate the dating landscape with clarity and confidence.
Be Open and Honest with Your Dates:
Communicating your needs can feel easier said than done - but by intending to be as open and honest with what you’re wanting and needing it can help you quickly ascertain who is a great fit for you. Clearly communicate your expectations, intentions, and what you're looking for in a relationship. Sure you don’t need to reveal this all on the first date, however a transparent approach ensures that both you and your potential partners are on the same page.
First Dates Are Always Awkward - Dating Confidence Is Built Over Time:
Dating can feel awkward at any age, and first dates often come with a little butterflies. This is so normal, anytime we do something new or edgy - we’re going to feel nervous! Remember that dating confidence is developed over time. Give yourself permission to embrace the learning process and be kind to yourself - the more you do something the more comfortable you will feel.
Maintain Other Relationships:
While dating is exciting, it’s really important not to put too much pressure on finding "the one." Maintain your existing relationships with friends, family, and loved ones - these relationships can be more fulfilling, supportive and filled with love than a romantic relationship. Don’t forget to nurture and value your many other loved ones and turn to them when you need.
Examine and Challenge Unhelpful Thoughts about Dating:
Negative thoughts and self-doubt can hinder your dating experience. Examine how you currently thing and feel about dating and challenge any limiting beliefs that suggest you're "too old" to start dating again. Embrace the fact that age is just a number and that meaningful connections can be found at any stage of life. Replace self-defeating thoughts with positive affirmations and an open mindset.
How to Tell Your Kids You Want to Start Dating Again:
If you have adult children, it'll be useful to have an open and honest conversation about your decision to start dating again. It’ll be worth asking them how much information they want to hear - some will want to know when and who you start dating again, others may only want to know when it’s serious and others will want to help you in the process! Whatever they share they’re comfortable with, reassure them that they are a priority whilst also sharing with them why you want to start dating again.
Seek Professional Support:
If you are processing grief and loss, seeking the help of a therapist or counselor can be beneficial. They can provide guidance and support as you navigate the emotional aspects of dating again. Professional assistance offers a safe space to explore your feelings, address any concerns, and gain valuable insights to make dating the best experience possible.
Dating in your 60s can be a remarkable chapter of self-discovery, love, and companionship. Remember, age should never be a barrier to finding happiness, meaningful connections and great sex!
